What I wish I had learned earlier in life, but came through life experience is this.
Intimacy is the real act, and sex is just the end process of that act.
E.g. The fun aspect of those that don't get it is the adage that women love bad boys. In my opinion, with my perspective (male, pan view) is that women desire to do dangerous things with a male partner where they can feel safe and secure and have a man have so much desire to risk 'bad things' happen to them.
A lot of guys don't get this, and some women who are heavily manipulated into the trad-wife and conservative patriarchal view don't get it either ...
Exactly!!!! Neither gets how important safety is. A woman relaxes and even "submits" when she feels safe with a man. Intimacy can be intimacy when a woman feels safe with a man. So many men focus on domination instead of safety and protection.
What I wish I had learned earlier in life, but came through life experience is this.
Intimacy is the real act, and sex is just the end process of that act.
E.g. The fun aspect of those that don't get it is the adage that women love bad boys. In my opinion, with my perspective (male, pan view) is that women desire to do dangerous things with a male partner where they can feel safe and secure and have a man have so much desire to risk 'bad things' happen to them.
A lot of guys don't get this, and some women who are heavily manipulated into the trad-wife and conservative patriarchal view don't get it either ...
Exactly!!!! Neither gets how important safety is. A woman relaxes and even "submits" when she feels safe with a man. Intimacy can be intimacy when a woman feels safe with a man. So many men focus on domination instead of safety and protection.